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Saturday, 28 February 2015

8 Things You Should Never Do For A Lover You’ve NotMarried


Don't do these 8 things in a non-committal relationship
because, though love is spontaneous and doesn’t hold back, it
pays to be cautious, especially when there is no formal
commitment from the so-called lover.
Love is about giving in and giving up a few things, but…
1. Don’t change your personality. Now, they say you should
change for the one you love. Yes, that is true. But when the
changing comes from you alone and it seems like you’re being
re-manufactured, then something is wrong. No man or woman
should attempt to change you entirely, unless you really have
bad habits. Aside this, in the event that you’re separated, the
hurt will be worsened by the fact you won’t recognise
yourself. You’ll be nothing without that person. A person who
loves you must accept the real you.
2. Don’t abandon your dreams: This is another one you should
be careful about. Two people in love ca exist without killing
each other’s dreams. It is a good thing for both of you to alter
your careers and dreams to accommodate each other. But
there is a limit. A true lover would aid your dream, ask you to
abandon it. Work out a middle way. If you lose your dream for
a relationship that is not yet solid, marriage especially, sorry
will be your consolation when it ends.
3. Don’t abandon your friends and family. Hmmm, it really is
sad that some people let love kill their relationships with kith
and kin that they had before meeting their lover. They do not
realise that friends are the only thing you can fall back to
when you hit life’s road bumps. If a lover makes it a case to
break your link to friends and family, please exit. They should
find a way to accommodate your friends. If you lose your
friends to that relationship, what happens if it ends?
4. Don’t set up businesses or share details of official
information. Many people think it is love to expose their entire
business plans and financial information to a supposed lover.
But this is dangerous. A lot of people ‘love’ just to deceive
and maybe swindle. If they have access to sensitive official
details, like ATM card pins, internet bank passwords, property
document details, etc, you are exposed to danger!
5. Don’t become a donor agency. Lovers should help each
other, morally and financially. However, don’t be saddled to a
leech, a tick who only feeds off you. You’re not a bank
account or donor agency to anyone. As you give, make sure
it’s reasonable, and for genuine needs. A lover who always
returns for more is a gold-digger, a fraud that you don’t need.
Small money gifts are cool, but should not become the norm
and basis of love.
6. Don’t give unofficial loans, bad personal investments.
Loans are relationship killers. If a lover wants huge sums of
money from you, be wise and make it legal. At worst, make
sure the money is deposited to his/her bank account, to leave
a trail that can be used to retrieve it in case you guys fight.
To withdraw N200,000 and give to your lover in cash as a
loan is not wise. Instead, transfer via bank and write ‘loan’. If
the money is big a signed IOU might be necessary. Also avoid
foolish investments like setting up businesses or funding
projects without legal documents. This may look rigid, but
many people have killed ex-lovers because they could not
retrieve their ‘investments’.
7. Don’t give unfettered access to private emails and social
media accounts. In these modern times, social media
accounts are very sensitive. It should be as personal as
possible. Making it a public affair for a transient lover is bad,
bad and bad. Imagine the damage they could do if you break
up? He or she could for example lock you out of your own
account or even send out compromising messages through
your account.
8. Don’t reveal compromising information or damaging
materials. When we fall in love, there is the temptation to talk
too much, way too much than we need to. There should a lot
of discussion between people in a relationship. But some
things should never be said to some people who are not yet
fully committed to a relationship. Sharing intimate secrets will
put you up for future attacks. Ex-lovers are fond of sharing
demining information, like nudes or private talks.
Love doesn’t hold back, it is spontaneous, it is forgiving and
every other good thing.
But it pays to be cautious, especially when there is no formal
commitment from so-called lover.
To be in love is to love with wisdom and caution…

Tuesday, 24 February 2015

5 Classes Of People That Get The Most Beautiful Wife!


I have always wondered why some people marry ugly wives
and some get beautiful wives. It is not easy oo, you have to
take eyes to the market (moju lo soja).
1. Doctors: This is a highly rated job in the world. Women are
attracted by their intelligence and life savings acts. This sets
don't stress themselves up to get a good and beautiful
woman. People like Nneka123 will easily fall for them.
2. Bankers: hmmm! I wish i'm a banker. I went to a bank
days ago, come and see fyn girls as them plenty. The bankers
don't have problem to get the best of women. Thank God it's
now a condition whereby you will have to write your name
and phone number in a ledger before you leave the bank. Na
copy and paste stuff. GBAM! Dating follows. missjenna kinda
suite this type of people .
3. Comedian/Radio Presenters.
This set of people are soft minded, and they they have what is
called 'sugarcoated mouth'. Just few, charming, outspoken
words will get their heart for you they are not shy to face
anybody, even if na mizMycoli.
4. Pastors: Pastors just need a simple dream or vision to get
the beautiful lady in their church. No stress required, because
women love affluence and pastors have it.
5. Politicians:
Not much. But you know they are ontop of the world. They
have the fame, money, etc....

9 Types Of Men Women Avoid!


We all know that in as much as women are attracted to
certain types of men, there are other types of men that
women go out of their way to avoid. Here are some of
them.
The Non-Committed Guy
>>This is the guy that tells you he doesn’t want a
relationship immediately, the guy that can’t/won’t call
you his girlfriend when it’s way overdue, or the guy
that’s over 30 and hasn’t had at least two serious
relationships (or one very serious, 1+ years relationship).
It really doesn’t matter what his issues are, the bottom
linen a relationship with you. Do not try to change his
mind, turn him around, or make him want it. You’re just
going to waste your time.
The Mama's Boy:
>>The Mama’s Boy probably still lives with his parents in
their house, allowing Mom to iron his clothes, make his
bed and cook his meals. When a man delights in being
waited on hand-and-foot by his mom, there’s trouble. He
always asks his Mom before making major decisions in
his life and its a big problem for you if his Mom doesn’t
like you.
The underachievers:
>>You know the type. He sits at home playing video
games all day and then goes to hang out with his guys
at the club at night. If he has no hobbies, skills, or future
aspirations outside of his living room, you know you’ve
just encountered the attractive but exceedingly lazy
underachiever. When searching for a man, you should
always look for confidence, ambition and stability.
The Control Freak
>>Going out with this man is like dating your very strict
father. At first, his embrace may seem warm and secure.
But before long, you’ll be suffocating. It’ll start with
going to the restaurants he chooses, seeing the movies
he picks, hanging out with his friends and not yours. But
eventually he tries to dictate everything, from what you
wear to how you spend your free time. With a control
freak, you have to give up more and more of your
separate experiences, separate activities, separate
friends. And then it goes deeper to separate thoughts
and feelings until you no longer have an identity of your
own.
The Gadget Freak:
>>The gadget freak always likes to be called a ‘big boy’.
He has the hottest phone and a decked-out luxury car. In
other words, this guy has a lot of material things keeping
him busy. As a grown-up kid who can’t resist the new
plaything of the moment, he has a hard time keeping his
attention on women. After all, who can compete with
technology when it changes at lightning speed? This guy
cares more about stuff than people. (Bad sign.) With this
kind of outlook, women who date The Gadget Freak are
often left wondering if an upgraded model will make them
obsolete.
The Over Intimate Guy
If your guy is too eager for some intimacy, it’s never a
good sign. For one, he may act as if he’s extremely into
you just to get you into bed as soon as possible. He’s
the kind of guy that looks deep into your eyes and tells
you he never felt like this with any girl before just a few
days after meeting him! This guy comes across as
incredibly affectionate and might confuse you. If he’s the
player type, this is all an act to get you into bed.
The Cheap Guys
He invites a woman to dinner and then subtly suggests
she should pay the bill. He never splurges to buy her gifts
and he always opts for the cheapest stuff available. He
makes her feel like they’re on a tight budget from the
very first date. It’s just a few weeks into the relationship
and he’s already asking her for loans he would never pay
back. Ladies, this is someone to run away from.
The Cheaters
The Cheater doesn’t try to hide the fact that he’s
checking out other women while in her presence; he flirts
with the waitress and he even goes as far as to brag
about his past girlfriends. Overall, he lacks respect for
women. It’s a sad fact of life that some men are apt to
cheat on their wives and girlfriends, it should become
clear that most cheaters won’t change. Ladies, it’s time
to let him go once and for all. Send the cheater packing
and save the relationship that matters most – the
relationship you have with yourself!
The One Who Doesn’t Like Your Family
>>Nobody has a perfect family, but if your guy
consistently says he doesn’t want to be around your
family, refuses to attend events where they are present,
or is generally rude to them, this is a huge warning sign
for problems in the future. He should love you for you,
not your family, and he should respect you enough to
treat them with kindness, regardless of how he feels.

7 Clues To Tell Your Spouse Is Lying


1. Is her face giving it away?
You may think a smile can easily disguise your true feelings,
but the expressions that flash across a liar’s face will give
away what she’s really thinking—whether she knows it or not.
Experts advise paying close attention to hard-to-hide micro-
expressions; these clues are often so difficult to detect that
even trained experts have trouble discerning them. But you
may be able to spot a liar by the red color on her cheeks,
since anxiety can cause people to blush. Other indicators of
lying? Flared nostrils, lip nibbling, deep breathing, and rapid
blinking, which hint that the brain is working overtime.
2. Does the body language follow the story?
It’s more important to examine a person’s entire demeanor,
as there’s no one feature that’s apt to give away a liar.
Honesty is characterized by features that are in sync with one
another—so besides posture, note the fit between face, body,
voice, and speech. Like an animal avoiding detection, a liar
may pull his arms and legs inward or keep his movements to
a minimum—anything to appear smaller. Liars often shove
their hands behind their back because those fidgety digits
might give them away.
3. How is the person smiling?
A smile can sometimes mask a person’s true feelings. Pay
close attention to how a person smiles as well as other facial
movements. You may be able to detect the emotions he or
she is trying to hide—such as fear, anger, and disgust. A true
smile will incorporate both a person’s lips and eyes.
4. How is the person speaking?
Although a change in voice can be the tip-off to spot a liar,
experts say that to be sure, you should also pay attention to a
person’s speech rate and breathing pattern—if either speeds
up or slows down, chances are you’re not hearing the whole
truth.
5. What is the person saying?
Liars tend to avoid exclusionary words like “but,” “nor,”
“except,” and “whereas,” because they have trouble with
complex thought processes. Also, they are less likely to use
the words “I,” “me,” and “mine.” In their attempts to distance
themselves psychologically from their tall tales, liars will tend
to communicate using fewer personal pronouns.
6. Is your subject behaving uncharacteristically?
Experts believe changes in a person’s baseline—how she
generally conducts herself—are worthy of your attention. You
should weigh rate of speech, tone of voice, posture, and hand
gestures against what you know, along with the context of the
situation. When your husband says “I loved the tie you bought
me” while he’s wearing a tight smile that doesn’t reach his
eyes, expect to see him in a turtleneck.
7. Is the question simple or embarrassing?
It’s normal for someone to look away when asked a difficult
question. But when someone avoids your gaze when asked a
simple question, you should be suspicious.

Saturday, 21 February 2015

10 Things Women Need To Stop Doing To Each Other!


Stephanie share this piece,I find it quite interesting so I
decided to bring it here
1. Stop Taking Each Other Down:
For a woman, it is another woman. As women, we need
to stop taking each other down with our words and
actions and rather focus on lifting each other up. The
world would be a much better place if we all did that.
2. Stop Comparing:
As women, we find it so easy to look at ourselves and
compare varying qualities that other women possess.
Each of us is created in our own unique and special way.
Let us try taking the time to realize the unique qualities
that each of us has rather than comparing.
3. Fighting Over Guys
Obviously, if your best girlfriend has an affair with your
guy, you have every right to scream and yell. That kind
of betrayal warrants anger, for sure. But most times, we
should take our anger out on our partners rather than
the other girl. Also, if your girlfriend is in a relationship
and you are not, don’t allow your jealousy and
frustration to get in the way of your friendship.
4. Criticizing Other People’s Weight:
There are very polite ways to make a complement on
another woman’s weight. But saying “oh my gosh you’re
so skinny” or “wow, you’ve added so much weight!”
might be more hurtful than we think it is.
5. Withholding Compliments
Not only is it bad to compliment someone negatively, it
is also wrong to withhold good compliments. If your
girlfriend has a really nice hairstyle on, or has lost some
weight and is looking great, go ahead and say it to her.
6. Telling each Other's Secret:
It’s really sad to confide in someone and find out that
the person has let out your secret to the wrong person.
Ladies, let’s not do this to ourselves.
7. Not been Supportive:
Many times as women, we desert our friends when they
need us the most. Its our friend’s wedding, birthday,
graduation, store opening…. and because we feel a
certain way about that achievement or milestone, we
don’t give our support. So wrong.
8. Stop Competing:
I wish I could scream this. Not everything in life is a
competition. No one has to really ‘win’ that best dressed
award or most expensive bag title. Focus on your own
qualities that are unique and special to you.
9. Comparing Our Bodies:
Hey ladies, we really need to stop this. Many of us have
done harmful things to our bodies in a bid to look like
the next person. Love who you are and don’t think you
need to look like anyone else.
10. Stop Hating:
I really didn’t know what to title this last point. It might
not be the appropriate word to use, but have you noticed
that some women just don’t like other women for
absolutely NO REASON? I’ve heard this a lot of times “I
don’t like that lady” and when you ask why, the response
is “I don’t know, I just don’t like her“. Maybe she walks
or talks in a certain way that you don’t feel comfortable
with and because of that, you conclude that you don’t
like her even though you hardly know her!
This gets me confused. Let’s continue this discussion in
the comment section. Ladies, why do you think we do
this to each other? How can we stop such habits?
What other things do we need to stop doing to each
other?

12 Real Signs Of True Love In A Relationship


True love may be hard to define, but the signs to
read true love can be clearly seen in every perfect
loving relationship.
If you’re in a relationship and want to know if you’re
experiencing the purest form of love, use these 12
signs of true love to find out for yourself.
#1. Give and take in love. You give to the
relationship wholeheartedly, without any desire or
expectations of getting something back in return
from your partner to justify your actions.
#2. Pure happiness. Just watching this special person
smile or laugh out loud fills you with intense
happiness, even if you’re suffering or having a hard
day.
#3. Pain and anger. You get terribly hurt when your
lover upsets you, but their actions never anger you.
You may get annoyed or frustrated now and then
momentarily, but you just can’t stay mad at them for
long because staying mad or giving them the silent
treatment hurts you more.
#4. Sacrifices. You make sacrifices for their happiness
or well being, even if they may never realize it.
#5. The right effort. You go to great lengths and
make an effort to improve the relationship, and play
a conscious part in trying to please your partner and
make them feel loved and special.
#6. You can't even hurt them. When you’re truly in
love with someone, you can’t even imagine hurting
them, emotionally or physically. Payback is a strong
human instinct, but true love makes you completely
selfless.
#7. You keep your promises. When you make a
promise to them, you stick to your word even if this
person will never find out if you broke their promise.
When you experience true love, your moral
conscience becomes very strong when it comes to
this one special person.
#8. WE. In a perfect relationship, it’s good to have
your own space to grow as individuals. But at the
same time, if you truly love your partner, you’d see
them as a part of your life. When you think of your
future, you can’t help but see them by your side.
#9. You share their burden. And you do that even if
you don’t really have to. You can’t bear to see this
special someone suffering. If they’re dealing with
some issue, you’re always willing to offer them a
helping hand even when you have your own
difficulties to look into.
#10. Pride and jealousy. You beam with pride when
they achieve something, even if it’s the same thing
you failed at. You may get jealous of a friend who
outdid you, but when you love someone, jealousy
never enters the picture.
#11. Suffering. You’d be willing to suffer, just to see
them happy.
#12. Their perspective. Everything you do, you keep
your lover in mind and think from their perspective,
be it about planning a surprise party or hanging out
with your own friends after work. You don’t ever want
to hurt your lover, so you always think from their
point of view before making any decision that
involves them in any way.

10 Simple Things Guys Do To Deceive GIRLS.. Which Won'tStop After Reading This!


Now I love my sisters and I'll do anything for them, and they
are one thing I'll always thank God for, coz they bring pain to
the guys in their lives. Well, I coach them to LOCK UP their
warehouse of abundance. As a semi-badt guy, guys have
tricks and I'll expose them here. Thank me with a PM if you
want more tips.
1. Using Slow Rhythm and Soft Tone: Whether on the phone
or in-person, the first simple thing a guy can do to deceive
you is when he lowers his voice tone to become soft and
speaks like he's talking to his great grandmother who just
had ear surgery. Ladies, you know what I'm saying... abi?
2. Smile: A genuine smile that has the sides of a guy's eyes
stretching along, will ALWAYS deceive you ladies into opening
up your shield. Watch for this one too. A smile can cost more
than the price they call. Na after you buy you go know the
difference between Isoko and Sokoto
3. Make you laugh : Like this post says, these are just simple
things guys do and this one is like the simplest and most
obvious. Ladies, trust me guys know this and I'm telling you a
secret. (hussssh! listen...) Guys believe that once they can
make you laugh, "it's finished" as put by my sweet Lord
Jesus. Maybe that's what helped Jesus with the women in his
life... he never made them laugh. I'm not sure I have an
antidote coz this trick really works.
4. Make you talk: A guy that knows 'wasup' will always make
you want to talk, and talk ONLY about yourself. Things that
concern you, your hairdo, your makeup and how so 'beautifully
ungodly' it is - and even what you think about the Big Brother
House girls! This tactic is simple. So simple. Once they get
you talking and talking and talking, trust me, they are ogling
at your chest, your lips and if it's really nice, your hair.
5. Walk slowly : A slow stride in a guy signifies some sort of
confidence. Ladies, am I right... that you NEVER get turned on
by a guy who walks SO FAST! Tap! Tap! Tap! Like he was
walking to secure the last seat before his molue leaves for
heaven! Once a guy steps slowly like, one... and... two...
and... one... and... two... trust me, the ladies start tripping.
6. Perfume: Hmmmmm... no need to talk about this. It's as
simple as I told you it'd be. The worst part, even a N1200
perfume can make a girl think, "Hmmm... just maybe"
7. Dress cute: Whether wearing the most expensive or the
cheapest, as long as the color goes well and the clothes are
ironed, ladies just start considering. If the guy con try add
good shoe with correct belt, aha! "It is finished" again...
Thank u Lord Jesus!
8. Clean Skin: O boy! I don't know where to start from in this
one. A 20-something year old lady almost raped me when I
was like 12 years old coz of my skin tone! Heck, why do you
think ladies love holding babies and cuddling them? Once a
guy maintains his skin well, no blemish, no pimple, all clean,
the ladies even start deceiving themselves. They be like,
"wow... he's SO competing with me"
9. Deepened Voice : Another simple trick that throws girls off-
balance. A guy's voice sounds deep, mustn't be bass, and the
ladies start doing "ten ten" in their minds. Na wa o. Don't
they even know this voice thing comes as early as puberty?
God help my 18-year old bro... the guy must be having
'selection problem'.

Some Prayer Lines Single Ladies Pray Before Stepping Out


This prayer point takes place in their heart.
As she walks on the street, communicate on Social Networks
etc, she prays these prayers.
1. May my husband to be locate me today. Amen!
2. Any broke ass niggar that may want to come my way.
Fire!!!
3. I call forth Shell workers today. They'll fight over me.
4. My ex- that useless boy, will not see my break light
forever!
5. Help me pretend well so he can admire me from afar!
6. As I'm trekking under this hot sun, may a rich, single,
handsome and gentle guy pick me up in his Range Rover
Sports. Amen, by Fire! 3 X
7. Any girl blindfolding my husband to be from seeing me...
be lost and not be found ever. Amen!
8. As I walk and roll it, let it cause waves! May he notice
me!
Ladies, Am I saying the truth?
Happy Weekend

Friday, 20 February 2015

How To Spot Ladies Desperately Looking For Boyfriends


We all know that NO lady would ever admit chasing a
guy. They also chase dudes in a coded manner and
pretend they don't probably because they are naturally
born pretenders. They are always like, despite the species
of guys begging me to date them" God forbid I woo a
man", if he can't make advances, let him bleep off jawe
Without much ado, lemme keep the ball rolling
Just grab your mat and if you don't have one, kindly sit
on your coconut tree
1. She Utilizes Opportunity
She spots a guy whom she likes standing in front of her
compound, she tries to come out even if she has nothing
doing outside and that's when she remembers the grass
in front of their house has not been cleared since the time
of Soddom and Gommara, she goes inside and picks a
cutlass and while cutting, she starts gazing at him hoping
he would come to say "oooooh pretty, lemme do this for
you".. Hahaha !!!
2. Status Updates
You see updates like, "I'm a woman of virtue and I know
it"; anyone who finds the key to my heart finds a treasure;
I really want to know what love is.. This updates however
catches fancy
3. Chilling Alone At The Eatery
She might just get dressed and chill at the nearest eatery.
She orders for what she wants and pretends she only
came to enjoy herself and nothing more but deep within
herself, she's hoping a random dude would come and ask
her why she is seated all alone
4. She's Wants You To Strike Up A Convo
Imagine you both met each other at a shop and she was
being attended to because she came earlier than you.
After buying her stuffs, she no go go lae lae.. She remains
there hopin you would say hi to her.. **many ladies
would deny this**
5. Smiling Unnecessarily
Hahaha Someone that doesn't smile at home will
start smiling the way Usain Bolt smiles when he wins
gold medal. You "hi" her and she's already smiling
6. She Includes Her Phone Number/PIN On Social
Network
You see her PIN/phone number on social media. She
purposely included it in her profile because she knows
request would definitely be rolling in from various species
of dudes
7. She Gives You Close Marking
You are both reading in the classroom and the moment
she spots you, she packs her book and sits next to you.
She's like, pls can you explain COM 101 to me better
because I find it difficult to comprehend. **if I hear say
na her mission be dat **
8. She's Extraordinary Humble
When frustration of boyfriend comes, a very rude lady
becomes extra ordinarily nice and you'd be like, this babe
is humble to the core. (Ironically she's not like that at
home).
9. She Sends You Friend Request & Denies It
She must have heard about you so she decided to add
you up. She pretends she doesn't know how you got into
her list
10 . NOTICE ME Attitude
When she sees various species of dudes clustered around
a particular place, she keeps doing things just to get
noticed.. She starts speaking grammar stylishly gazing at
them if what she's saying is audible
*** Feel free to add yours ***

Thursday, 19 February 2015

She Broke Up With Me Because I Am Igbo


received this from a user ...read message below......

there is this girl named Anita that I was dating for two
months, in may 2014. immediately she found out I was ibo,
she said she hates my tribe with passion, that all we care
about is money..money & said it was over. I begged her, that I
'm not like that, besides I was born in Edo state to Ibo
parents. eventually she left
l began working hard, got employed at Hi tech construction
company, worked there for six months and I finally
hammered... got a new apartment, new car & I became the
talk of the town.. *not proud*
One Saturday morning, I went to buy airtime, I saw Anita's
parent crying and begging their landlord, I went closer , saw
some boys throwing out their properties, I asked the landlord
why, he said they can't pay their two years rent which was
160k, I rushed home signed a check gave it to the landlord,
they returned back their loads and everybody was looking at
me. since that day, Anita parents have been calling me their
son, and Anita won't let me be. its either she's the one
calling, knocking at the door begging me. I was like okay fine,
I forgive you. But, she wants us to be together AGAIN...
All I want from you AC readers is your Advice.. cos I am
planning on getting married this year. I need the right woman.
THANKS

8 Signs Of A Husband Material


You find such a guy and you begin to form for him? There
must be something wrong somewhere
How do you know he is an husband material?
1. He calls you often and asks how your day went.
He does this in a friendly manner. He doesn't "act" it.
2. He visits you on sick bed and perhaps sleeps there with
you.
This implies that he is willing to accept your "ups" and your
"downs" alike.
3. He loves your siblings as his own.
He loves your siblings and plays with them carefreely? Haba,
think about it!
4. He talks to you with respect.
He doesn't talk down on you even when you talk flippantly. He
ignores without and scolds within with respect.
5. He doesn't force sex on you.
He loves you so much that he won't force anything you're not
comfortable with including premarital sex.
6. He gives you cash when you need it.
He is responsible in your financial issues. He likes giving to
you to the best of his capacity. He even tells you his whole
salary . He loves you then.
7. He tells you the truth not minding how you feel. He later
pets you
He doesn't leave you to yourself. He scolds within but with
love. He draws you back with one hand however. He doesn't
sleep with malice.
8. He talks of his future plans with you in it.
He plans his future and includes you. That's a major sign.
Ladies, this kind of guy exist. Don't give up on us yet. Naija
guys are all you need. At least, I am here

Tuesday, 17 February 2015

Seven Ironies Of Ladies


DISCLAIMER: If this thread doesn't apply to you, don't
condemn it. It applies to a lot from my keen observation.
You wonder what's in her heart sometimes. If you look at her
façade and expression, you may miss out- look inward.
It is ironical sometimes when you can't decipher what a lady
really wants, : she connotes A and truly wants J. Hmm
Seven Irony Of Ladies Are:
1. The "bossy-looking" ones are usually the most simple
ones.
She talks and acts like a woman of action. At work, she is
strict and firm , don't you dare think she unemotional. She's
just too "built up" and proud to admit it. If you are pester her
with so much care and sweet words, she'll open up to you
"yakata"! This works 99.9%.
Mind you, She was doing all that because she's too scared of
a heart break.
2. The Ones That Snubs You And Doesn't "Send You" Is
Actually Into You
Come to think of it. You're one of the most popular guys in
your department. Every lady talks to you except her. She
doesn't look your direction is a more sure sign she is madly
in love with you. Chill out! Watch it, she knows you on
Facebook. In NL, she doesn't like to be seen viewing your
thread sef
3. The Quiet Ones Are Often The Most Corrupt.
Hian! How many times have we seen a very gentle looking girl,
well dressed and meek. You then hear of things...things she's
been exposed to. You're like, what! Take your eyes off loud
chicks, keep them on quiet ones. Have you heard? Green
snake in the green grass?
Check her phone and see her pix, videos and messages. Hmm,
her message box is often empty. lolzz.
4. The Indoor Ones Are Often Loudmouthed on Social Network
Lol! See her in real life and you'll see a boring person to be
with. Even chat her up and you'll regret why. In NL? She is a
TIGER about to devour. She talks dirty and flirty.
In real life...leave the matter for matthias joor!
5. The Ones That Always Want To "Correct" You Cares For
You
Don't get it twisted. If she storms your thread with a battalion
of army, don't reply with hate. MOST TIMES, she likes you.
Don't feel infuriated too soon. Why? Love corrects.
6. The Naturally Pretty Ones Are Often Shy To Face People.
You would think these set will be outgoing and all of that, but
most at times, they are just simple. They have simple lives.
Wear simple clothes. Spend half a day on their iPhone.
This is often misquoted for pride and ego whereas she is just
shy. Guy, dig deeper!
7. The Un-Pretty Ones Are Assuming The Office Of "Hard-To-
Gets".
Lol! I don't know why. I can't explain it. I just don't
understand. It's not like you should not "form", but for how
long? "Shoe has size" isn't for only guys o...Abeg, park well,
say Yes to him before he sends you to Recycle bin and still
deletes you.
You know yourself, I know myself
Be yourself, you are not Miley Cyrus, KK, Barbie or
Rihanna...You're You!
Be You!
Good evening

Saturday, 14 February 2015

The metaphysics of love


Those that answer Valentine dread the month of February like
a plague. Besides, close friends who always demand that you
celebrate your name in grand style, most confront you with all
manner of questions bordering on the concept that your name
is supposed to embody. Thus, you are asked whether you
were born on the 14th of February or whether you were a by-
product of love affair that took place in the month of February.
One fact I have come to discover over the years is that people
take those that bear the name of Valentine as experts in all
known techniques of love, starting with its fundaments to its
metaphysics.
Despite much research, we cannot tell unarguably the exact
date the feast started, nor the route by which it entered into
history. Perhaps it is connected to the life of a certain St.
Valentine who was said to have suffered martyrdom in Rome
as the Church hagiography would want us to believe. Perhaps,
as the legend of the saint’s heroic faith says, it grew out of
the love shown to prisoners by the saintly Valentine. Perhaps
it has to do with the period in the year when birds of the earth
look for mates. Perhaps it is another case of substitution of a
pagan feast by Christian feast as a subtle way of blighting
paganism at the bud. We do not know. Valentine’s Day is part
of history whose beginning has been forgotten, and whose end
we shall never reach.
The popularity of Valentine’s Day could be linked to the nature
of the theme it celebrates – love. Writing about love,
Archbishop Fulton Sheen called it “the most used, and the
most misunderstood word.” The misunderstanding inherent in
the nature of love often provokes people to ask questions
such as: How much of what we claim as love is love indeed?
Does love have different levels and spheres? Is it possible to
love our neighbour as ourselves, as the Holy writ prescribes?
What is love? These are the questions with which the most
comprehensive theories, treatises, and analyses of love find it
necessary to begin.
To the Greeks, love could be Eros, Philia, and agape. Plato’s
ladder of love in the Symposium has different loves for its
rungs, up to what we commonly call “Platonic Love”. St
Thomas Aquinas distinguishes between love in the sphere of
the passion and love as an act of will. The former he assigns
to what he calls the “concupiscible faculty” of the sensitive
appetite; the latter, to the rational or “intellectual appetite”.
Sometimes, people talk about metaphysical, contemplative,
material and acquisitive love, etc.
Whatever form love takes, it implies a complex psychical
experience of strong attraction to, intense desire for, vivid ap­
preciation of, a profound interest in, ones object of love. The
object of love could be a fellow being, institution, cause or
even nature. It involves tender affection, sympathetic
understanding, admiration and loyalty, with reference to its
object.
But apart from a few people who recognize the fact of
plurality of love in their analyses, most of us, especially the
youth, talk abundantly of love, commonly in the sense of
amorous appetite. These are people who confess their loving
the object of their love more than their own mothers. Recall
the “sugar in my tea” and similar stuff. Our elders consider
this form of love to be a form of “possession” or “madness”,
and would frown at anyone who would propose it as a fit
guide in the choice of marriage mate. They do this, knowing
that once the erotic side of love diminishes or fades away
altogether, the disinterested element fades too; interest in the
other’s happiness evaporates, all tender feeling is eroded, and
the one desire is to get away. This is what Lucretius called
“erotic befuddlement”. What Dedriot deridedly described as
“the voluptuous loss of a few drops of liquid.” It is a spark
thrown off by the contact or nearness of two opposite bodies.
In pursuit of this type of love there is nothing that human
beings have not done, or are not capable of doing. The love
portion that some ladies brew for men they suspect of
unrequited love has no platonic aim. It is not out of
generosity, rather to get the object of their longing, that men
spend lots of money in wooing women. Women themselves do
as much. To attract men, they dress in manners to arouse
precipitate passion. Eyelashes are darkened with gum
ammonia. Checks and lips are painted with sticks of minium
or alkanet roots. Adjustable eyebrows are used and often
pencilled with lampblack or pulverized or sulphuret of
antimony, sometimes it is thinned to diverse shapes or shaved
off entirely and painted “crescent moons” or other forms.
Eyelids are shaded with kohl. All sort of things are rubbed on
the face, in the hope that it will make them look beautiful.
Some in the villages still wrap their fingernails over night with
henna leaves to make them purple. Padded brassieres are
used to make the breast look poised and … Breast en­
hancement has since become part of beauty regimen. There is
no part of the woman’s body, in pursuit of men, that has not
been perfected, decorated, refined, stretched and squeezed,
bleached, reformed, compacted and shortened.
Higher than the afore-described love is what is often called
genuine friendship. In this type of love, there is often the
predominance of altruistic motives. It springs from mutual
admiration. Here, love is thought to precede desire and to
determine its wishes. Marriages built upon this type of love
are often successful. Mature lovers discover that marriage
transcends the act of multiplication of the species or the
fantasy of sexual acts. There are some men who think that all
a woman appreciates in a man is when he brandishes the
erectile organ to her satisfaction. No. Marriage is more than
that. It demands deep understanding and maturity from both
partners.
All the foregoing classifications and distinctions, inexhaustible
though, belong to the theory of human love. But the fact of
love’s diversity extends to the Christian theory of love.
Christianity brought about a basic shift in man’s thinking
about love. Christianity sees love not in the emotion or
passion, but from the infinite perfection and creativity of God.
Writing to the Corinthians (2 Cor 13: 6) St Paul said that
“love takes no pleasure in other people’s sins but delights in
the truth…”God Himself is love (I John 4: 4). “Love ye one
another”. In this profound sentence, God summarized all the
commandments. Love rules the world and was, perhaps, as
Parmenides thought, “the very first thing created by the gods
to rule the world”.
The key to peace in the world is for men to embrace the
ethics of Christ – love. Confucius taught a version of it in his
rule of reciprocity (golden rule). Immanuel Kant espoused it in
his book, The Metaphysics of Morals in what he called the
“Maxims of Categorical Imperative”. All great religions teach
it. Until we start to imbibe this golden rule (love), the battle to
re-make the world can as well be labelled a utopia.
The sooner we use the day of Valentine to promote this type
of love, the better the world will become. Here we are again
celebrating another Valentine. How do we make it serve the
purpose of making the world a better place? Is it for us just a
day to buy expensive Valentine’s gifts and flowers and caress
one another in the happy ignorance of the true meaning of
love? These are the central questions.

How I had three kids in four years –TIMI DAKOLO


Winner, Idols West Africa, Timi Dakolo, has opened on mar­
riage and fatherhood describing it as the climax of every
man’s dream. In an exclusive chat with The Entertainer at the
Congress Hall of Nicon Hilton Hotel, Abuja, recently, the vocal
powerhouse, who tied the knot in 2012 to his baby mama,
Busola, declared that marriage has transformed him.
“Marriage has really transformed me,” Dakolo begins, a soft
smile playing across his lips as he speaks, “life is not just
what it used to be any more I must confess. I can’t do a lot
of things I want to do anymore because now I am married
and it has made me more responsible. These days I think for
more than just one person. Marriage makes you start every
journey with an end in mind and that is the joy of being
married.
“Even as I speak to you I am thinking of how I will pay school
fees and house rent. A lot of responsibility comes with
marriage but then, it also comes with a lot of favour;
undeserved favour, favour you can’t even explain being
showered upon you from left right and centre.
“When you are married and your home is stable, it comes with
a lot of blessings you can’t explain. People treat you
differently, even God Himself brings things your way and you
begin to see the world differently because things just click,” he
says, snapping his fingers to drive home his point adding,
“you can’t even explain why and you don’t know how it
happens; that is the truth. Especially if you are at peace in
your home, things just begin to click.”
Timi says he is grateful to God for the understanding he has
with his wife, Busola, the mother of his kids and discloses
that one thing he has always prayed to God for is an
understanding and caring wife who would understand him and
his moods because of his creativity.
“Before I got married I prayed to God for a woman who would
understand me and my moods because I could be very easily
distracted and destabilised so I wanted a woman that would
not give me trouble but rather, complement me.
“The truth is when I am troubled and distressed I could be the
least creative person for as much as four days at a stretch so
because I wanted peace in my home, because I wanted
somebody that would understand when I tell her that ‘baby,
you can’t talk to me now I am writing,’ and she wouldn’t get
upset, I had to pray a lot and I thank God I found that person
in my wife.
“Now you could tell that to some people and they would get
very angry and upset with you but my wife does not because
she understands and sometimes, when I am busy and the kids
are getting in the way she tells them ‘don’t go there, daddy
wants to be alone.’
“She understands my moods. That is how we are. She is my
greatest critique. A man’s greatest achievement is marriage.
Marriage has transformed even my music.”
Iyawo Mi
So dedicated is Timi to his wife that he has dedicated a song
to her on his latest album entitled Iyawo Mi.
“Yes of course, Iyawo Mi is a song on my soon to be released
album,” Dakolo says excitedly. “The single was released a
while ago and it is dedicated to my wife. I can’t be singing
R&B and not dedicate a song to my wife; it is not possible.”
So now that he is married, are the girls still coming after him?
He pauses for a while before he responds philosophically
quoting a Bible passage: “The Bible says ‘many are the
afflictions of the righteous man.’ What I do is that I stay out
of trouble and the way I avoid temptation is by sitting in my
house and watching football, playing video games and doing
music, and I am always so happy at the end of the day.
“I always try to push my wife in people’s faces whenever I
have the opportunity because when it comes to temptation,
no man is as strong as he thinks he is and that is the truth.
So if you want to avoid temptation, just sit in your house and
don’t forget that our industry is a very unforgiving one; I don’t
want scandals.”
Idols West Africa
The vocal powerhouse also used the opportunity to talk about
his experience at Idols West Africa, the platform that gave him
a name and a voice and how he never believed he could be so
successful musically.
“I had big dreams but music was not part of it,” Dakolo
recounts, “I stumbled on music basically. Sometimes you
stumble on destiny on the road you are taking to avoid it. It
began with somebody telling me to go for West African Idols .
It was after West African Idols that I now said ‘okay, music is
something I just might do’ because in my house those days,
you can’t say you want to do music unless you are out of
your mind! They will tell you to first return all the fees they
paid to get you through school,” he says laughing.
Love & Consequences
With three successful albums in the kitty, Timi says work is
currently ongoing on his next body of work. Commenting on
his new album Timi continues: “I am recording a new album
entitled Love & Consequences. It is a 14 tracker. I have been
in Georgia, Atlanta, recording live with Cohbams because I
want my music to have that unique live feel.
“Love & Consequences is almost ready. The message is that
there are consequences for getting married whether negative
or positive. I have a song that is entitled Iyawo Mi which was
released a while ago and dedicated to Busola my wife: the
video is currently trending on YouTube. I have Wish Me Well ,
there is The Vow and there is also Stranded. My Great Nation
song is also on this album.
“And guess what; I have also started working on the album
after this one entitled Ateni’s Grandson which is dedicated to
my late grand mum, the woman who raised me.
“Ateni’s Grandson is basically about the things she told me
about life and a few songs from here and there. There is
another album I am also working on entitled The Rock Side of
Things. Like I said earlier, marriage will make you start a
journey with an end in mind.”
No more kids please…
And just three years after he tied the knot, Timi reveals that
he now has three kids and he is through with making babies:
“I have three kids now and I can confidently tell you that my
wife and I are done making children; no more kids because I
have three already. I am done with making babies.”
Three kids in four years, how did he pull it off? “My name is
Timi Dakolo and I get away with a lot of things,” he concludes
as we both share another round of hearty laughter.

PSquare’s Shekini VS Oritsefemi’s Double Wahala… Which ismore popular?


There has been an astronomic rise in the volume of hit songs
being churned out by Nigerian artistes in recent years. In fact,
so stiff is the competition music buffs argue that the average
life span of a hit song in Nigeria is just three months. Conse­
quently, this week, Showdown features two of Nigeria’s cur­
rently raving singles; P square’s Shekini and Oritsefemi’s Dou­
ble Wahala, two of Naija’s most popular tracks as at last
count.
P-SQUARE:
Fraternal twins, Peter and Paul Okoye aka P-Square hail
from Ifite-Dunu, Anambra State, but were born in Jos,
Plateau State. They started off as members of Literary &
Debating Society at St Mulumba Secondary School, Jos,
Plateau State, mimicking popular acts like Michael Jackson,
MC Harmer and Bobby Brown. They formed groups such as
MMMP and later MMP aka Smooth Criminals before founding
P-Square. In 2001 they emerged winners at the Grab Tha Mic
competition sponsored by Benson & Hedges. This culminated
in the release of their debut album entitled Last Night. To
date they have dropped six studio albums and won several
awards and nominations. Shekini is a song from their sixth
studio album entitled Double Double, released late 2014.
ORITSEFEMI:
Self styled Musical Taliban and indigene of Delta State,
Oritsefemi Majemite Ekele aka Oritsefemi, was born in
Ajegunle, Lagos State, to a polygamous family. Oritsefemi
grew up on the streets and today the act says all those
experiences have become inspiration for his music. He started
out playing the bass guitar for the Cherubim and Seraphim
Church in Ajegunle and later served as their lead vocalist.
Later on, he formed the now defunct Junglist but after two
albums, the Itsekiri act decided to go solo in 2006 and
released his debut album entitled Elewon . He has four albums
to his credit namely Flog Politicians, Wicked World,
Unfadeable and Musical Taliban. Double Wahala was the
track that took the Ajegunle musician to the main stream.
…And the people’s verdict:
It’s Double Wahala –Vitalis Ighabor, businessman
Double Wahala is more popular than Shekini. It is currently a
must-play for disc jockeys at major events and on radio
across Africa and it has even won awards and nominations for
Oritsefemi so I prefer it to Shekini. Besides its message is
more meaningful.
It’s Shekini –Ekanem Glory, undergraduate
Shekini is more popular because it is one of the songs
trending across Africa currently. One thing About P-Square is
that there is always something seductive about their songs.
Apart from the fact that they are talented and hardworking,
they usually drop seductive songs which people are forced to
listen to because the songs are addictive.
Like Double Wahala like Bianu Le –Kyrian Anazodo, Civil
Servant
As for me, I can only compare Oritsefemi’s Double Wahala to
Samsong’s Bianu Le and not P-Square’s Shekini. However, I
cannot not recognise any re-mixed song as being good
enough to win award no matter the effort.
Double Wahala more popular – Peace Opara, banker
I can agree that Double Wahala is more popular as we speak.
Shekini on the other hand is not yet well known because it is
a new song unlike Double Wahala that has been there for a
while.
Double Wahala isn’t original
–Ajibade Femi
We shouldn’t compare Double Wahala with Shekini because
Double Wahala is a remix of an existing song done by another
artiste. But Shekini is original in beat, lines and overall
concept. So, no matter how popular Double Wahala seems to
be, Shekini is better.
Shekini more danceable –Okon Emmanuel, entrepreneur
Shekini and Double Wahala are very popular songs especially
among teens and radio stations. And-
The truth is that Shekini has an edge over Double Wahala .
Shekini is more danceable and is suitable for clubs, parties
and other ceremonies unlike Double Wahala. And more
importantly, Shekini is an original song by the popular twin
acts while Double Wahala is a copied version of Fela’s hit.
Too early to rate Shekini –Titi Abiodun, undergraduate
I think that it is too early to rate Shekini, especially as regards
comparing it with an existing hit song. I may have played both
songs but I am sure that many Nigerians are not yet aware of
Shekini. One thing about the song is that even if you are not
cut out for secular music, you will find yourself nodding away
from the beginning of the song till the end because it is warm,
crispy and lively all the way. I am sure that it will win several
awards and nominations before the end of the year.
No basis for comparison – Mileke Bisola, student
Double Wahala and Shekini do not have the same tempo and
shouldn’t be compared to each other. However, I am much
more concerned about quality rather than popularity.

How Tiwa Savage fell in love with Tee Billz


“Love comes to those who believe it and that’s the way it is.”
Indeed, that is the way the Celine Dion lyrics turned out for
the Eminado crooner, Tiwa Savage. Upon return from United
Kingdom (years back), Tiwa had gushed that her Manager,
Tunji Balogun (a.k.a. Tee Billz) is an exceptional man. “We
have worked together and we trust each other. So, I am not
scared that anything negative will come up between us. I
don’t work with fear because fear is not of God.”
Tiwa divulged (at the listening session of her Once Upon A
Time album) that she dedicated the song, Written All over
Your Face to Tee Billz because of the role he played in her
life. “I met him at a time when no one was ready to help me
because I am a female artiste. Whenever I wanted to give up
and cry sometimes, he always encouraged me to be strong
and move on. He is my back bone. I love him because he has
been there for me. He wiped away my shame when he put a
ring on my finger.”
True to his promise at the engagement, Tee and Tiwa became
husband and wife in April last year. Right now, Tiwa is an
expectant mother. On how Tee wiped away her shame with
the engagement ring, Tiwa explained. “In Nigeria, when a lady
is not married and is just focussed on her career, people think
that there is something wrong with her but he understood my
journey. He was able to push me career-wise and encourage
me.”

Top 10 Categories Of People That Won't Bother AboutValentine's Day


Ofcourse,it's the season of Love and everywhere is
characterized with colours associated with the season.Ladies
are happy 'cos the elections have been postponed and the
guys are like 'why postponed the elections?'
As soon as I left the banking hall this evening,one of Our
staffs showed me a note written by a lady at the back of a
teller together with her cell number that reads 'will u be my
val?'So,I now decided to come up with these few points of top
10 categories of people that won't bother about this val,so
relax and read.
1.The Gays/Lesbians :These types of people do not need
elaborate explaination to convince everyone that they have lil
or no interest in valentine's day.
2.The Real Born Again Christians :These sets of people in
which I belong to don't regard or recognise anything such like
this.It's highly unacceptable in the 'christiandom'.The bible
says 'don't be an equally yoke with the
unbeliever',hence,christians don't engage themselves in
valentine's celebration.
3. Those In The Battle Field: [/b]Our patriotic and beloved
Nigeria soldiers in Maiduguri and other parts of the North-
East will definately not be having a one-out time with their
loved ones this season.
4.[b]The Singles: I know many will be on this lane.Many broke
up before the celebration in the aim of dodging his
responsibility during this season whilest some don't have a
date.Majority of these people are the guys 'cos the ladies are
always engage and it's their norm.
5.The Handicaps :By handicaps,I don't mean the handicap the
bettors give to a club whilest staking his game oh,lol.Such
people in this group may include,the dumb,the blind,the
deft,the lame etc.These sets of people would likely go to their
plantation tomorrow being saturday or even stay indoor to
watch GoTv,hence,they don't bother about valentine's day.
6.The Minor Or Under-aged :When I was a lil boy,I used to see
people put on reds cloths,caps on val's day but I didn't know
why they were puting on such on that day not until I was
matured enough to know the reason behind it.So,a minor is
less concerned about val's day,all he cares for is to get his
parents' attention,play around and get his stomach filled to
the brim.
7.The Typical Hustler :The truck pusher,wheel Barrow
pusher,the undertakers,the itenerant trader,the pedestrians,the
hawkers etc hardly think about Love 'cos they don't have the
time for such and hence,less bothered about it.
8.The Village 'papos' And 'Mamos ':These are the old people
in the village usually the Grandpa and grandma.They can
hardly move out 'cos they are too old and those who
can,don't even remember anything like val's day let alone
celebrating it.
9.The Experienced:These categories are the ones who try to
advise their younger ones/sibblings to steer-clear from guys
this period 'cos they've seen the bad side of val's day.These
ladies are in their late 30's trying to caution their sibblings
who aren't adult at the moment.They are experienced and as
such not so bothered about the season as the youths do.
10.The Ugly ones: ]These sets of people have been forcing
themselves on the opposite se.x long before the val's day but
as soon as the day approaches,they all alone.These
categories of people are commonly ladies who don't have any
swag,who put on un-attracting skirts that are long to their
toes,they have no features on their body to attract a guy,the
least goes on and on.As such,they relax in their single
apartment all day.
Feel free to add urs,thanks 2 u all.

Friday, 13 February 2015

Happy Valentine's Day everyone!


Here's wishing wishing you love, pure & unconditional; peace
with others and yourself; good health; mentally and physically;
beauty, within yourself and in your surrounding; confidence,
when things get tough, patience, with your own trials and with
others; I wish you laughter anyway you can get them. I wish
you strength and courage to sustain you. But most of all, I
wish you a day of miracles.
Happy Valentine's Day to everyone out there! Plenty love and
kisses!

How Many Women Died For Love?


Valentine died for love
Romeo also died for love
Jack in titanic died for love
Samson in the Bible died for love,
Greek heroes Hercules & Archilles
died 4 love
... & even Jesus Christ died for
love...
Wetin !!
?? Haba !!! where are the
women?
Una no sabi die? Abi na only gift
Una sabi collect? After Una go
talk
say boys no dey try. No Gift
again
this valentine unless una give us
10 names of
women wey die for love. Oya!I de wait..

please help She Wants Me To Be Her Val After Meeting Her On A Group Chat. --a User


I just received this from a user today he needs your help.....read below ::
I don't do this but I said let me just drop this for honest
response from you guys.
Last week I was invited to a group chat where I meet this girl,
we have been chating, she later invited me for a private chat,
only yesterday she started talkling about valintine. Not to bore
u with our chat this girl now want me to be her val said I she
please not say no. Before I said jack robbison she has sent
her nums said I should visit that her elder sister who she lives
with will not be around, begging me to come oo.
So am just wondering how many girls are single and
desperate searching for a val mate and some guys d here d
dull. Go grab a val mate men.
But I still need u guys opinion should I make her wishes come
true? pls don't ignore

Tips To Get Through Valentine's Day If You Are Heart Broken


Even though logically we know it’s just another day
in February, Valentine’s Day can still be really hard
for anyone who’s not in a loving, stable relationship.
This is especially true when you’re heartbroken.
Valentine’s Day becomes about a million times
more difficult when you’ve recently been dumped,
dumped someone, or had your crush stomp on
your heart like a little bug.
But just because you’re feeling especially sad and
lonely doesn’t mean your Valentine’s Day has to be
the worst day ever. Here are some tips on how to get through
Valentine’s Day if you’re heartbroken.
Take A Mini Social Media Break
If you're bummed about Valentine's Day, why would you want
to sign onto Facebook, Twitter or Instagram and see a
barrage of pictures of couples bragging about the gifts they
got or professing their love for one another? You wouldn't.
Consider taking a little break from the Internet for the day so
that you can avoid
anything that may make you feel like punching somebody.
Plan To Do Things That Will Make You Happy
Plan ahead to make sure that your day is filled with things
that will make you happy. It doesn't matter what it is! It could
be watching your favorite movie or eating your favorite food,
or even just sleeping. Just do whatever will make you feel
good about yourself.
Have An Anti-Valentine's Day Celebration
Want to have a reason to feel angry and
bitter? Throw an anti-Valentine's day party for all of your
friends who also hate Valentine's Day. You guys can hit a
park to relieve stress, make fun of whatever you want, and
just have a good time being together.
Buy Yourself A Gift
Who says you can't get a box of truffles and a bouquet of
flowers just because you're single? Go out and buy yourself a
present! It's even better because you know you'll love what
you get. Buy a jewelry of your favorite,foot wears, undies etc..
Go shopping!
Avoid Things That Will Make You Sad
Don't online stalk your ex. Don't think about memories from
your last relationship. Don't focus on the fact that you're
single. Don't do anything that will make you feel totally
bummed out.
Go Out with Friends
If it make you happy to stay home, eat, and binge-watch TV,
go for it. But
if you think staying in bed will only make you more miserable,
find something else to do. Go out with a friend and do
something completely un-Valentine's Day related.
Remember It's Just Another Day
When it comes down to it, just remember that Valentine's Day
is just like any other day. It doesn't have to mean anything if
you don't want it to. Don't focus on it!

Things To Do On Valentine's Day If You Are Single.


V-DAY is not just a day to glorify romance,
it is also a day to celebrate love in general, love for yourself,
your friends, your community and for the world. So if you
don't have a date this Valentine's Day, don't stay at home
and pout. Here are some other things you can do on February
14th to celebrate the day of love.
1. Cook Yourself a Nice Meal. After spending hours at a
voting center, putting together a nice meal for yourself is the
next thing to do. It's practically impossible not to feel good
afterward.
2. Head To a Club . There are nice clubs out there that you
can go to. Most of them are best decorated on February and
their service is always at its best. Go there and enjoy your life.
3. Get yourself together . It may sound strange, but when was
the last time you woke up feeling totally put together? Instead
of moping about being single, use the free time you have on
Valentine's Day evening to get yourself organized. Clean up
your calendar, catch up on laundry, plan ahead for major
things, and get a head start on those works you've been
avoiding. Use the day to finish (or start) something you've
been meaning to tackle. It may sound lame at first, but you
might be surprised at how good you feel after you're done.
4. Send Love Someone Else's Way. Studies show that
kindness spreads like epidemic, so start the epidemic. Do
something nice for another person. Open a door for someone
who needs it, visit an elderly person, spend time with him/her,
help them arrange the house. buy a rose and give it to
someone random on the street, whatever you do, will make
you feel full of love inside.
5. Throw a Party. If you have the money then invite your
friends over to celebrate being fabulous.
6. Love Your Singleness . Think about all the marvelous
benefits of being single, from not fighting over minor issues to
being able to keep your living space as clean or as messy as
you'd like. No unnecessary question like where are you, where
have you b

Thursday, 12 February 2015

I RATHER DIE SINGLE THAN GET MARRIED


I just received this mail today from a user he needs your advice pls read below.........
Going by the trend of cheating mostly found among the
female folks especially Nigerian girls, one begins to wonder if
there is still hope for we the unmarried men. Where are the
women of virtue and dignity why has promiscuity become a
norm and way of life among our ladies Are there still good
women out there Are there still ladies who stick to just one
guy irrespective of your financial situation?
I have been scammed and taken for granted by ladies who
took advantage of the love and care i had for them. It
saddens me to know that most Nigerian men have the same
story to tell about our females. How and where can one really
find the love of one's life in this our immorality filled
society?
Your opinions are needed

Aww! This Lady Donated Her Kidney To A Stranger,now They're Gettin Married!!


The past year has been a whirlwind for Ashley McIntyre and
Danny Robinson -- a kidney donor and kidney transplant
patient, respectively, who started the year as strangers and
finished it as fiancés.
Ashley first heard about Danny from her mom, who had
learned about his tragic story on a local Louisville, Kentucky
radio show. Danny was a 25-year-old electrician working full-
time while undergoing 12 hours of dialysis a week to manage
an inflammatory kidney disease called IgA nephropathy. He
needed a transplant, but none of his family members were a
match.
"He lost his father to brain cancer in 2012 and their house
burnt down on Christmas Day in 2011," Ashley told The
Huffington Post. "It was just one thing after the other. Hearing
all of that and knowing he was only 25 was a lot for
anybody."
When asked what compelled her to make such a sacrifice for a
stranger, she simply said,
"I took the whole process very seriously -- I did my research
and everything. But to me, as long as the doctor said I was
fine and I was going to be fine and that it would work for
Danny, it was like, why not give up a kidney to
someone who needs it?"
Ashley and Danny were a match throughout each step of the
pre-transplant testing. She told HuffPost Weddings that she
had been adamant about not meeting Danny and his family
until the surgery seemed like a sure thing; up until that point,
she had been primarily corresponding with his mom. So in
March 2014, they finally met face-to-face with their families
at The Cheesecake Factory.
"I was extremely nervous -- over-the-top nervous," Ashley
said of their first encounter.
"But as soon as we sat down and started talking, it was like
immediately I just felt like I had known him forever. Everything
his mom had told me up until that point was true -- about
him being a truly good human being, just a good person all
the way around. My dad was very taken aback about how put
together he was. He said he could tell he was a genuine
person."
On April 17, 2014, Ashley and Danny went in for surgery at the
University of Kentucky Albert B. Chandler Hospital in
Lexington. Both procedures were successful -- the transplant
surgeon told The Courier-Journal that there were no
complications in either operation.
But it wasn't until after the transplant that Ashley and
Danny's bond turned into a romantic one. Ashley cites a
Memorial Day Weekend barbecue as the turning point in their
relationship.
"It was really clear early on that this was 'it,'" she told The
Courier-Journal.
On Christmas Day 2014, Danny proposed to Ashley in front of
his family. She said 'yes,' and the pair is expecting their first
child together -- a baby girl they've named Berkli -- in June.
"It still doesn't register to me," Ashley said about the crazy
year they've had. "Before all of this [attention], we don't really
think about our situation. We just live our daily lives. So to
relive it all is kind of surreal, but it's awesome."

Wednesday, 11 February 2015

Important Notice!!! From National Association Of BoyfriendsAnd Husbands (NABAH)


From National Association Of Boyfriends
And Husbands (NABAH) .

Dear Ladies
Now that u have decided to shift the Election which was
meant
to Hold on 14th February Valentine's day without a Proper
Consultation with National Association of Boyfriends and
Husbands (NABAH) stating security issues as d reason behind
d
postponement. We want to use this Opportunity to inform
Nigerian Citizens that the Valentine also cannot Hold on 14th
February 2015 due to Security Challenges affecting our
Country
The Alert which we received from NSA, SSS and NPF, CIA,
CTU,
FBI indicates that Mr Biggs ,Boutique, Shoprite ,Hotels even
Mama Nkechi's Canteen and other Eatries in every corner of
Nigeria are targets by Boko Haram. Please our dear Ladies we
love you so much and we don't want Titanic to repeat itself
again. Kindly stay in your House as our members in the
association will also be in their respective Houses praying for
the goodwill of Nigeria. We shall fix a New Date for the
Valentine or carry it Over depending when Boko Haram stop
bombing. Thanks for Understanding and also pray that Our
Soldiers will defeat Boko Haram soonest. Thanks
Sign
Secretary for the President of the Association AllBoiz

Turning Him Into A HUSBAND MATERIAL.


Turning Him Into A HUSBAND MATERIAL.

Change they say, is constant.
I assure you, I have heard the saying, " You can't change
anyone"...I used to believe that until I had a reason to doubt
it... They also say stuff like "Once a cheat always a cheat"
etc.
I do believe Love changes people.
Turning him to a Husband material is all about touching
certain spots in him so much so that IF something happens
and you're no longer together, he never forgets you- You Left
An Indelible Mark In His Heart.
NB: These points can also be followed in a PLATONIC
relationship, not only in a LOVE relationship.
How Can You Turn Him To A Husband Material?
1. Keep Your Standards Genuinely High
Most ladies think that "giving up your standards for him is
one of those things love will should cost you...No! In fact,
giving up your standards shows that all ladies are the same
and both of you (you and him) are just the same meaning-
you can't positively affect him and fix his challenge. If your
stand is no sex, don't lower it to touchings...Keep it high- WE
WILL HATE YOU AT FIRST BUT THEN YOU WILL JUST BE
ONE SHINING DIAMOND in the sky . If you're doing it with
some other guy, it won't be long, he'll find out.
2. Be Real With Him At All Times- Express Emotions
Sometimes.
Don't be too firm and resolute. Be emotional occasionally.
Trying to impress him isn't the key. I had a lady then who
shed tears just because some folks she was leading were so
recalcitrant- As she wept, I loved her more- I can't explain it
but I saw reality in her.
Being real with him means you have to always open up when
you're not comfortable with something but in a mature/ mild
way.
3. Lead Him To Believe In The Supernatural.
Especially, if he doesn't believe in God...
The Supernatural is inexplicable using the human mind. There
is just something when a girl invites a guy to her Church. He
may be a whizz in natural life and work but he feels inept in
this area...How do you feel when you see him turning to
Genesis when the pastor told them to open to Hebrews?
He can't forget you...
4. Don't Put Money As Top Priority
Putting money as top priority makes you like the rest of
'em...If he asks you to cook for him, try as much as possible
to do so much with just little- hard right? Try to...You may
not have a second chance to make a first impression. Some
girls even give...You love him, you see his potentials, isn't it
wise to sow a seed or two? Don't say, he'll leave you when
things get better, not when put all the 7 points to practice.
5. Be Committed In Checking Up On His Goals In Life.
Find out what matters most to him- his vision, goals, purpose
etc. Ask him about it and once in a while remind him... Insist
that he go look for a job, sends his CV to so and so... Every
guy still have baby tendencies- being like a mother to them
energizes them.
6. Teach Him And Make Him Look Like The Teacher.
Mothers are life mentors. So are Real Ladies. Teaching a guy,
you need to be wise, especially when you're not trying to be
selfish. I do this a lot to girls. In teaching, ask questions,
suggest...It's not inferiority, it's courtesy, respect and regard.
7. If You Don't Agree With A Certain Behavior Of His, Create
An Avenue For Him To Correct It.
He didn't call you on your birthday. Call him and insist that he
calls you immediately. Don't take it too personal. He still loves
you nonetheless. By doing so, you're standing out as a Big
Girl and not a Spoilt Brat.
This thread does not promise you that he will change
but ...You will change...
Love changes people in amazing ways. You haven't
experienced it doesn't falsify these points... Maybe you have
to put these to practice thus enhancing your chances of even
finding the guy who won't be a tough but to crack.

8 REASONS WHY NIGERIAN GIRLS ARE THIEVES

NIGERIAN GIRLS ARE THIEVES


1) THEY LOOK FOR VULNERABLE GUYS AND SCAM THEM
WITH LOVE THAT DOESN'T EXIST IN THEIR HEARTS.
2) THEY ARE INTO A TYPE OF BUSINESS CALLED MULTIPLE
BOYFRIENDS. THE HIGHER THE BOYFRIENDS, THEY HIGHER
THE MONEY DERIVED.
3) AN AVERAGE NIGERIAN LADY IS NOT CONCERNED ABOUT
HER MAN'S FUTURE. ALL THEY KNOW IS HIS CURRENT
FINANCIAL SITUATION AND ONCE HE'S BROKE THEY RUN
TO THE NEXT VICTIM ON THEIR LOVE TRAP.
4) THEY ARE LIKE A PLAGUE IN EVERY SERIOUS GUYS LIFE,
THEY DISTRACT YOU FROM YOUR ACADEMICS OR MAKING
MONEY WITH THEIR FAKE LOVE CRIES. DON'T BE
DISTRACTED, THE END GAME IS TO DRILL MONEY OUT OF
YOU TILL YOU GET BROKE.
5). THEY ARE INSATIABLE. HENCE AN AVERAGE NIGERIAN
GIRL KEEPS AS MANY GUYS AS POSSIBLE AND ALL SHE
OFFERS THEM IN RETURN IS PUSSSY MAINTAINED WITH
ALUM TO MAKE HER LOOK TIGHT AND DECENT DOWN
THERE.
6) THEY ARE NOT LOYAL.
7) THEY EAT LIKE GLUTTON AND GROW BELLIES LIKE A
PREGNANT WOMAN. IF YOU DOUBT THIS, WALK TO A
NEARBY EATERY ON THEIR DAY OF FAKE LOVE
CELEBRATION CALLED VALENTINE. YOU WILL SEE THEIR
TABLES FILLED WITH FOODS AND DRINKS THEY CAN'T
AFFORD COURTESY OF A NEW MAGA IN FRONT OF HER
SMILING LIKE A ROASTED GOAT WHILE SHE PATIENTLY
EMPTIES HIS POCKET.
NIGERIAN LADIES SEE RELATIONSHIP AS A POVERTY
ALLEVIATION PROGRAM. ONCE YOU'RE IN THEIR LOVE
TRAP, THEY EXPECT YOU TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITIES THEIR
FATHERS CAN'T TAKE
once you spot a Nigerian girl showing you green light, be
careful as the smile is fake. The quality and quantity of love
you get from her depends on how financially buoyant you are
and what gifts you have to offer
source: User

Pinnick banks on Eaglets, Dream Team IV for AFCON 2017


For Nigeria to qualify for the 2017 Africa Cup of Nations, the
current squad of the Super Eagles must give way for younger
players that are hungry for success.
President of the Nigeria Football Federation, Amaju Pinnick,
made the submission as part of the positives he took away
from the recently concluded AFCON tournament in Equatorial
Guinea where he officiated as Match Commissioner.
The 2017 Africa cup of Nations qualifiers commences in June,
and Pinnick believed the current crop of players lack the zeal
to represent Africa’s most populous nation, hence his desire
to see younger players drafted in.
“If you look at most teams today, the players are between the
ages of 17 and 22, because these are players that are hungry
and they are the players for the future and this is what we
lack in the Super Eagles.
“There is no hunger in this current Super Eagles team and we
are going to sit together and highlight these issues with the
technical department, and they will analyse it and see if it is
okay for us to implement.
“We also have to organize technical study groups and so on
and this are some of the plans we have for the team.”
Pinnick slammed the current Super Eagles as lacking the
‘zeal’ and ‘national morale’ to represent Nigeria.

US, France and UK close embassies in Yemen amid turmoil


The United States, Britain and France said Wednesday they
were closing their embassies in Yemen amid the turmoil in the
wake of the Shiite rebels’ takeover of the country.
The closures – almost four years to the date since the start of
an Arab Spring uprising that ousted Yemen’s longtime
autocratic ruler – were an ominous sign for the faltering,
U.N.-brokered negotiations between the Houthi rebels and
their political rivals, They also threatened to plunge this
impoverished Arabian Peninsula country further into
international isolation.
Yemen has been in crisis for months, with the Iran-linked
Houthis besieging the capital, Sanaa, and then taking control.
In January, the rebels put U.S.-backed President Abed Rabbo
Mansour Hadi and all his Cabinet ministers under house
arrest, leading to their resignations. Subsequently, the Houthis
– who are followers of the Shiite Zaydi sect in the Sunni-
majority Yemen – dissolved parliament and declared they were
taking over the government.
On Tuesday, the State Department announced it suspended
operations at the U.S. Embassy in Sanaa and relocated
remaining diplomatic personnel “due to the ongoing political
instability and the uncertain security situation.” The embassy
had been operating with only a skeleton staff for some weeks
amid deteriorating conditions.
U.S. officials said the embassy’s closure would not affect
counterterrorism operations against al-Qaida’s Yemen branch
– considered by Washington to be the world’s most
dangerous offshoot of the global terror group. Yemeni officials,
however, say the move was likely to curtail U.S. military
operations in the country.
Yemeni officials said Wednesday that embassy staffers
destroyed files and documents and disposed of firearms
belonging to the embassy guards. They also handed over
Sanaa’s Sheraton Hotel, where staffers had resided for several
years, to the United Nations.
Also Wednesday, Britain’s Minister for the Middle East Tobias
Ellwood urged British citizens still in Yemen to “leave
immediately” as his country’s embassy evacuated its staff.
The French Embassy said it would close on Friday.
“The security situation in Yemen has continued to deteriorate
over recent days,” Ellwood said. “Regrettably, we now judge
that our embassy staff and premises are at increased risk.”
Germany urged its citizens to leave Yemen, Foreign Ministry
spokesman Martin Schaefer said Wednesday.
The diplomatic missions of many Gulf Arab countries, which
backed Hadi and opposed the Houthis, have already evacuated
their staff.
In Sanaa, the Houthis patrolled the streets armed with
Kalashnikov rifles and dressed in a mix of police uniforms and
civilian clothes. They sealed off main boulevards and drove
around in pickup trucks mounted with anti-aircraft guns.
Shops closed early and people mostly stayed home.
The rebels dispersed several scattered anti-Houthi protests,
beating the demonstrators and attacking them with knives as
they tried to march toward the U.N. offices, according to
witnesses. Several people were arrested, they said. The
Yemeni officials and witnesses spoke to The Associated Press
on condition of anonymity because they were not authorized
to talk to media.
Later Wednesday, thousands of Houthi supporters marched in
Sanaa, chanting, “Death to America, Death to Israel” –
echoing similar slogans from Iran’s 1979 Islamic Revolution.
The Houthis, traditionally based in northern Yemen along the
border with Saudi Arabia, deny they are backed by the Shiite
powerhouse Iran.
They also chanted in support of the rebels’ leader, Abdel-
Malek al-Houthi, who warned critics Tuesday not to stand in
the way of his movement and denounced foreign governments
for removing their diplomats.
“Whoever harms the interest of this country could see that
their interests in this country are also harmed,” al-Houthi said,
speaking on the rebel group’s own Al-Masirah TV network.
( WASHINGTON TIMES )

Monday, 9 February 2015

Pics: Back on? Khloe Kardashian steps out with French Montana

The off/on couple attended rapper Meek Mill's Grammys after-party last night in LA. The status of their romance is currently unknown but they seem very friendly...

Photo: Dakore Akande shares lovely new pics of herself

Beautiful!

Meet the first woman doctor to work in Igbo land

Dr Priscilla Nzimiro pictured above was the 1st woman doctor to work in the Igbo region in Nigeria. Sadly she died in 1951 a year after qualifying as a doctor. Photo credit: SeeMeSeeNigeria

Pics: Ambode & Fashola share gifts while campaigning in Alimosho today

Lagos state Governor Raji Fashola and Lagos APC Governorship candidate, Akinwunmi Ambode shared gifts to supporters as they campaigned in Alimosho Local Government today. More photos after the cut...

Photos from comedian Owen Gee son's 4th birthday party...

The comedian took to instagram to share colourful photos from his son's 4th birthday party at his school. Happy birthday to Richie. More photos after the cut...

Photos from Selma premiere at House on the Rock church, Lagos

Hollywood movie Selma premiered at House on the Rock Church Lagos yesterday Feb. 9th. David Oyelowo, his wife, Mo Abudu, Omotola Jalade, Olu Jacobs, Joke Silva, Benjamin Joseph, Chidi Mokeme, Jimi Agbaje, and many others were there. See the pics after the cut...