Please try to read to the end....
1) The more attractive the woman, the more
likely
she will be approached by the kind of man
who
approaches attractive women. This kind of
man
views hunting, seducing and conquering
women
as sport.
2) To a hunter, a woman’s body is a
commodity;
he wins the game by getting her into bed. To
a
nice guy, a woman’s body is a sacred
treasure;
he wins her heart by honoring who she is as a
person.
3) Hunters view women as nothing more than
prey. By definition, nice guys are missing the
“seducer” gene; even if they knew how to “play
the game,” their conscience would never allow
them to sweet-talk and manipulate a woman
for
their own selfish interests.
I think men talk to women so they can sleep
with
them and women sleep with men so they can
talk
to them.
4) Seducers are more likely to suffer from the
disorder known as IAAMATT (It’s All About Me
All
The Time). Nice guys are more likely to be
empathetic, nurturing and other-centered.
5) A woman turns to makeup and fashion to
boost her self-esteem and make herself more
desirable to men. Yet ironically, the more
beautiful she makes herself, the better her
chances of attracting the wrong type of guy.
6) The more attractive the woman, the less
likely
she will be approached by the kind of man
who is
good in relationships. Conversely, the less
attractive the man, the less likely he will
approach
a woman who is far more attractive than he
is.
That said, are there nice guys who are
attractive
enough and/or courageous enough to ask out
a
beautiful woman? Certainly. But they are a
rare
breed.
7) The kind of man who values emotional
intimacy often looks at a beautiful woman and
thinks, “She’s out of my league.” That is the
overwhelming reason why so many women are
wondering why nobody (or at least nobody
worth
going out with) ever asks them out.
Essentially,
seducers view a woman’s beauty as an
invitation;
nice guys view it as a deterrent.
When a beautiful woman gets fed up that only
hunters are approaching her and decides to
turn
the tables by approaching a nice guy, she may
be
turned off by the reception she gets. In her
mind,
she’s just striking up a normal conversation.
It
doesn’t occur to her that she’s catching him
off
guard, and that even though he’s trying to
listen
to her, her words aren’t registering because
his
head is spinning from the fact that a beautiful
woman is unexpectedly talking to him. The
experience can be so foreign and disorienting
that
he comes across as a stammering fool.
Patience
here can pay off, for nice guys often have
good
relationship potential once the initial shock
wears
off.
9) Since beautiful women are only approached
by
hunters, they understandably think that most,
if
not all, men treat women the way that hunters
do.
Meanwhile, the nice guys sit in the back of the
room and admire her from afar. Of course,
identifying the nice guys isn’t that simple; a
man
may be quiet and reserved, but just because
he
doesn’t act like a seducer doesn’t mean he
doesn’t aspire to be one. The wolf in sheep’s
clothing is just one more obstacle on the path
to
finding Mr. Right.
10) When a beautiful woman repeatedly
experiences the same pattern with one hunter
after another, she understandably expects that
pattern to continue. Frustrated, she may close
herself off emotionally to all men, eliminating
any
chance a nice guy may have of connecting
with
her in a meaningful way. In this way, her fear
of
never finding the right guy can become a self-
fulfilling prophecy.
11) If a woman wants to be swept off her feet
by
a man who would also make a good lifetime
partner, she is apt to be disappointed. The
kind of
charmers who are sweep-her-off-her-feeters
are
often the polar opposite of the kind of men
who
are good in relationships.
12) A nice guy is primarily relationship-
oriented;
he may first be attracted to a woman’s
external
beauty, but it is her internal beauty he values
most highly. A hunter is exclusively
achievement-
oriented; he does not value what a woman
thinks,
says or feels; all that matters is that she has
a
woman’s body and he wants to get his hands
on
it.
13) Beautiful women often confine nice guys
to
the Friend Zone. A nice guy’s worst nightmare
is
hearing those nine soul-crushing words, “But I
think of you as just a friend.” Many happy
couples
have built relationships on the bedrock of
solid
friendship, so perhaps it may be wise to
rethink
what makes good partner material and be
open to
finding it from unexpected sources. Which
brings
up the question: Can men and women truly be
friends? Yes, but only if neither of them has
any
romantic interest in the other. If even one of
them
is harboring hopes of romance, the friendship
will
reach critical mass sooner rather than later, at
which point the friendship must either dissolve
or
transition into a relationship.
14) If and when a hunter decides to “retire”
from
hunting and get married, he chooses a woman
he
can possess for her beauty, not one he can
build
an emotionally intimate partnership with.
What so
many admiring men and envious women fail to
see is that, throughout a woman’s entire life,
her
beauty can be as much a curse as it is a
blessing.
15) Women who are less attractive to the type
of
men who only pursue attractive women are
more
likely to have higher-quality interactions with
men. Why? Nice guys are often more
comfortable
asking out and authentically communicating
with
women who they feel are more likely to agree
to
go out with them.
The 15 reasons above are daunting enough
but
they’re based on beauty alone. What if the
beautiful woman in question is also brilliant
and a
successful high achiever? Yep, timid nice guys
would view her as even more intimidating and
unapproachable. Ah, but in Mr. Right’s eyes,
those qualities would make her even more
perfectly beautiful.....
or wot d'u tink
